Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Literary Junkies 7.0


Had fun chatting with the other Literary Junkies and wanted to share some of the things I'm working on in terms of my little literary world ;)


I finally got my hands on an eBook copy of a Sophie Kinsella book!   
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I absolutely love libraries and not only being able to borrow books by physically visiting a library but also digitally.  I'm such a book nerd about how excited I am about this.  However, I have like a 3-day loan on it so I'm trying to wrap this post up so I can get back to it.  I feel bad for ever judging chick lit because of a few bad samples.  Sophie Kinsella is hilarious and I love the character of Poppy so far!
 

 My three top reads that just fit warm summer days with a cold drink in your hand.
 
I have never finished Gone with the Wind, however the last time I tackled it was a summer years ago.  It's time to read this classic and watch the movie again.  If you're looking to get wrapped up in a summertime romance, consider Rhett Butler for your inspiration. Bloom is a book that I love and I could see myself re-reading this on a warm summer night surrounded by my little family.  Kelle is such a fun writer and blogger.  After you read the book (which I love), check out her blog.  Her posts are family-oriented and I feel like I would love to be a part of her life.  I read The Help during the summertime and you can relate to that down South heat.  It's an amazing book and one that you won't want to put down.  I highly recommend it and it's perfect for the theme of summer.

Three books that I can't wait to read this...since June is basically next week.
I've seen the movie, heard their was a movie, and then there's a blogger.
Can you figure out that riddle? ;)
I enjoyed Silver Linings Playbook because I really liked Bradley Cooper and his family dynamic.  I like Jennifer Lawrence a lot and I liked them paired together.  For some reason parts of the movie didn't sit well with me.  I'm hoping that after I read the book it will all come together.
I just found out that The Handmaid's Tale also has a movie made in the early 90s. Oh boy howdy- gotta see it!  Finally, the wonderful Nicole from Three31 sent me a copy of Let's Pretend This Never Happened by blogger Jenny Lawson.  I've heard rave reviews on all three books and I'm excited to read em.


I know that I'm completely obesessed with this book and that it needs to become a movie but it needs to happen! Plus I truly think that Henry Cavill would be an amazing Michael Hosea.  
#gottahappen


I know Nicholas Sparks is coming out with another book in September that differs from his normal writing format and that's incredibly exciting! The man is a genius when it comes to marketing a product because it works and he has one helluva loyal fan base.  I remember a couple years ago saying that I would love to have that type of literary career.  He might not write books of the year but he writes a product that makes people happy.  Can't hate on that.

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Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Thread the Pages Book Club

I've asked Ashley to share this great opportunity with the participants of the Blogger Book Swap.

With a busy life of two kids, blogging, running shop, being a PTA Mom on the Executive Board, parent volunteering at my daughter's school and more, it is difficult to be able to commit to anything extra. A lover of books and reading, I wanted to join a local book club, but because my free time isn't really spent 'freely' I was left wondering what I could do about that. So last November I formed an online book club called Thread The Pages! 

Thread The Pages is a book club that makes it easy for the busy mom, dad, or anyone to still get the benefits of being a part of a book club without ever having to leave their home! Many times during meetings I am still in my jammies and nursing my baby, but I am able to actively participate in discussion! I hold 'meetings' online via the club's Facebook page on chat once a month where we discuss openly the book from that month. I chose to hold discussion this way because not every member is able to participate when the meetings are held, but because it is via chat they're able to come back to the conversation and make any comments they would like later on when they're able to. 

Membership is easy; simply ask via email [afoxandawolf [at]yahoo [dot]com] to join or request to join the Facebook group.Once you join, I'll ask for you to make three book suggestions including title and author. You can do this one of three ways; send me the suggestions via email, on the Facebook group wall, or you can pin them to the group board on Pinterest. Those suggestions are added to the list and may or may not be chosen. Currently there are over 80 book suggestions that I have received so I have no problem choosing a book over the next few years!

Anyone can join and you're not required to participate every month or at all, although I would hope you want to join to actively participate most of the time! It is pretty easy going as far as membership is, but I do take this book club seriously so if you do join, please do with positive intention. There are a few guidelines as far as book suggestions and discussion go which can all be read about here. We currently just finished reading our fifth book, Stern Men by Elizabeth Gilbert and had our fifth 'meeting'. Jammies, nursing, and coffee in bed were had and the discussion, as always, great.

Much like a regular book club, the month of December we will 'take off' and instead of reading a book, I will host a book swap where any member who sign up with swap books with a partner. It's such a great way to be exposed to new books and make a more personal connection with other members in the group.

If you're interested in joining Thread The Pages, please contact me at afoxandawolf [at] yahoo [dot] com or request to join via Facebook!

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Monday, May 20, 2013

Weekend Shenanigans: Wisdom Teeth, Gratitude, & Beautiful Messes


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1// Military Mondays will be starting this summer and I am looking for military spouses and bloggers to help co-host. It'll be a series talking about tips and advice for adjusting to military life and living on a military base. If you're interested feel free to leave a comment, tweet, or send an e-mail.

2// I was so excited last night to finally receive an e-mail after multiple attempts to try to find a copy of a Sophie Kinsella eBook to rent.  I was hunting down all of my library cards from everywhere that I've lived at and filling out book checkouts.  I really wanted to find a copy of The Wedding Night but was excited to see I've Got Your Number.  This is definitely something that I want to share on the great uses of a library.

3// In case you haven't already linked up, I am the host for this weeks Preview to Summer prompt and I gave our participants the option to choose between two challenges: Literary Soundtracks and Character Crushes.

4// I don't know about y'all, but I could sure go for a vacation.  Vegas sounds pretty good right now.

5// Ryan and I were roaming around on Saturday and stopped at Home Depot to pick gardening supplies when we saw this lil' guy.  We ended up purchasing our own little love fern cacti and named her Rosie.  Apparently this cacti is a "red-headed Irishman."

6// After checking out and scoring at a local library pre-sale, friends and I headed to a local park called Giant Springs.  The terraced rocks and mini waterfalls were pretty beautiful and it definitely put some emphasis on me to explore more of Montana.

7// Pictures for 7 and 9 kind of go together since this week I had four wisdom teeth removed and with little to no swelling, I put on some make-up and felt really good.  I haven't really had that opportunity to get "dolled up" in awhile and it felt nice.

8// With time to myself and time off work, I was able to paint my nails something a little wilder.  The star sparkles are from Wet n' Wild's Fergie collection.

9// Post-wisdom teeth removal, I was laying in bed and my beautiful Holly girl laid her body on me and next to me as she continually licked my hand.  She seemed so worried and I love my beautiful baby girl.

10// Everyone in the Instagram world should know about The Beautiful Mess app by now.  I think it is such a fun way to add little extras to your Instagram pictures and it's just a neat thing to try out.  If you haven't seen The Beautiful Mess blog, I highly recommend checking that out.

11// I don't know if y'all caught Erin's speech from The Elevate Conference, but I was inspired by a post on her blog, Living in Yellow.  Her post, The Speech: My Story, talked about how she started in blogging and what inspired her.  I was surprised to see The Gratitude Journal featured in the post. That was something that I had in my hands at Barnes and Noble and walked around the store for a couple hours and eventually put it back.  That's one of my tactics to resist impulse buying but it was also something that I really wanted.  After I saw the post, I went to Barnes and Noble and bought it.  I've been experiencing some lulls lately in my work life and I like to focus on the positives.  You can't let negative things bring you down.

12// Finally, this is an image from the commercial that I made for Ryan and my anniversary.  It's a complete surprise to him but I'm creating a romantic, honeymoon-esque dinner because we never had a honeymoon.  I made a resort and need to pick up decorations but I'm so excited about this.  I can't wait to share it with all of you soon :)
 
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Sunday, May 19, 2013

Clarity or Excommunicated Part II

When I woke up this morning, I saw that I got responses for my post about blogging pet peeves and how I feel about certain aspects of blogging culture.  Regardless of how people felt about what I put, I thought having that type of discussion was really good.  It got people discussing issues that go on in "blogger politics."
I know it sounds silly, but it exists.

After I wrote back some responses, I went to the 11 am service for church and had some time to reflect.  I certainly didn't mean to hurt any individual person's feelings, but if I did I am truly sorry.  In no way am I trying to say that because of x, y, z my experiences have more of a profound effect than yours.  That's why at the start of the post I said that it's a rant.  But the fact of the matter is there is a type of blogging culture that thrives off of numbers and my post called it out.  The sermon we had today kind of fits this and I'd like to share it with all of you but that'll happen later in the post.

First I want to clarify what I mean by "crap writing" because I often reference it. When I say something is "crap writing" I'm calling it out because I know that the writer can do better work and they're half-assing it.  Not everyone has a content-driven blog but if you are a good writer and bloggers are investing money into ad space or businesses are investing products, then for me it's an ethical issue on what type of content you put out there.  Sometimes you need "potato chip posts" because they're fun to consume (I love to read those), but I find it so incredibly disappointing when a blogger has the best posts and you can see the content declining.  No way would I ever call anything that was written from a personal, deep place as crap writing.  I love reading what bloggers are willing to share.  I also think that people know what I'm referring to as crap writing and potato chip posts.  I'm not referring to writing style, grammatical errors, or even what you choose to write about in your life.  I'm referring to a reliance on filler content.  This does not mean beauty bloggers, fashion bloggers, DIY or anything else.  If that's your niche, I expect to see a lot of pictures.  I love photography and I like to see it on any blog, that's not the bigger issue.

What I don't like to see is a building up of an ego over a numbers game.  The numbers game in blogging is the number of readers you have on GFC or Bloglovin.  Based on the number of readers a blogger has, that becomes a business opportunity for companies to give you products to review.  That makes sense, that's just smart business especially because people trust word-of-mouth and bloggers fit a wide range of target markets.  However, if a product doesn't fit what you blog about, your lifestyle, or even your readership, it's up to you to establish whether or not that's a good thing to review.  I've seen multiple glasses reviews for people who don't use assisted vision devices such as glasses or contacts.  They can cost up to $300 or more depending on your prescription.  Having someone review them who does not have the credibility to do so is just really strange to me.  I personally would rather see those types of donations to children who need glasses and not a blogger who doesn't use them.  That was just one example because there are so many other people in the world that actually need them.  I've seen product reviews on the most random foundations and it's always interesting to see how a blogger will write about it.

This same type of business sense segways to companies that target bloggers to review products that probably won't benefit your readers.  I did get mad at a company for contacting me about a dress subscription that was expensive.  In later reflection maybe it was a good move for the business to cast a wider net of bloggers to see who might be interested.  However, as someone who loves clothes, I would much rather see a post on KiKi La'Rue and their products.  Everyone raves about their customer service, their quality products and consistent pricing.  If I'm going to put $40 on a dress, it's not going to be on a subscription for a dress rental, it's going to be on an actual dress.  I occasionally get to do reviews on products but I'm honest about it because from my demographic, I'm a young married woman who has a limited budget.  That doesn't mean I don't want nice things but it does mean that I look at the credibility of people and companies who are discussing products before I buy them.  I think many readers, especially bloggers who have a small readership can relate.

With my church sermon today, the concept of taking risks was discussed.  A lot goes into blogging.  When you choose to write about issues that bother you or something that is personal, you take a risk and you have to be willing to fail.  Did I take risk? Yes and some people didn't like that and some people liked the discussion.  I'm also positive I lost a reader but that's ok because I probably wasn't a good fit for that person.  I also was called out on being critical of other bloggers but how I see it as that if we're not critical then we risk losing what we gain from blogging.  Blogging is our new age of journaling and each blog is different with different perspectives and new things to gain.  However, I'm not going to say that something that is half-assed deserves a gold star.     

Another topic we discussed in the sermon was being united on the same front.  A lot of people suggested that I just stop following blogs but if I stopped following every blogger that occasionally put up a potato chip post then I'd have to stop blogging myself.  If I really don't like a blog then I do stop following it but this is so much more than not following a blog.  This is a cultural change that is needed in this type of community.  We often see movements against this flare up every now and then.  A few months ago this happened with the debates between large giveaways and "buying readers." I don't participate in those monetarily because it's not a good fit for me.  However this blogging community runs on a numbers game and so many people feel that in order to have some sense of competitiveness they need to participate in large giveaways.  I think it's important that bloggers are held accountable because it's a reflection of us, our blogging community, and the businesses we represent.  By putting out filler content constantly and doing product reviews that you're not credible for, that's not putting your best foot forward.  On the same grounds, we still have to remain flexible.  There will be crappy posts and bloggers who continue to do these types of product reviews (I do like product reviews, just throwing that out there).  Regardless, we (especially I) still need to understand not everyone is going to have the same set of ethics or values.  

Finally I wanted to address the marriage post.  I occasionally talk about difficulties with my marriage, but I do that because I know people can relate.  Sometimes people need to hear that someone else is going through that, whether it's in a marriage, common law marriage, or long-term relationship.  No relationship is automatically easier than the other.  We all have shades that are better than the other.  Each has their own trials and difficulties.  With a military relationship if something bad happens, the spouse is notified but if you're dating, the significant other has to find out from a family member.  I could not imagine how trying on the heart that must be.  Also with military relationships, many people get married because it's incredibly difficult to not be.  I always have a lot of respect for various military relationships because no way are they easy.  I hope no one felt that I was downplaying their relationship.  I do believe that the quote I was trying to explain was that regardless of how confident you are in paying bills or living together, sequences of events will provide different hardships.  That's why when newlyweds or people who have been together for years say it's hard, it's because it is and they're not trying to downplay your experiences but share that with you

Blogs change. They're like a living, breathing organism and sometimes it works out and other times you just need to hit "unfollow."  However, I still think it's important to address this because we shouldn't be okay with mediocrity.  We should be challenging each other to be the best we can be.

  

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